Relationships
Relationship Lab
Herschelle L
Welcome to Relationship Lab — the podcast where we experiment with love, connection, and everything in between. Whether you're dating, married, situationshipped, or single and soul-searching, this is your space to unpack the messy, magical world of relationships. Each week, we dive deep into the science, stories, and surprises behind human connection. From decoding red flags to exploring attachment styles, from real-life love stories to expert insights — we’re here to ask better questions, challenge assumptions, and help you build healthier, happier bonds. Think of it as therapy’s curious co
46 min
10 episodes
1
Is Marriage Still Relevant Today?
53 min
311/18/2025In this episode of the Relationship Lab podcast, host Ash engages with Lisa, a high conflict divorce strategist, to explore the relevance of marriage in today's society, the complexities of relationships, and the importance of communication and trust. They discuss the legal aspects of marriage, the challenges faced by individuals in high conflict divorces, and offer advice for young people navigating relationships. Lisa shares personal insights from her journey, emphasizing the need for self-awareness and understanding one's desires in relationships. The conversation culminates in a quickfire round of questions, providing practical tips for maintaining healthy relationships. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Motivational Quotes02:39 The Relevance of Marriage Today05:36 Legal Aspects of Marriage and Cohabitation06:04 Navigating Relationship Decisions10:43 Long-Term Goals in Relationships12:16 Personal Reflections on Parenthood18:29 Challenges Faced by High Conflict Divorce Clients26:18 Advice for Young People in Relationships48:02 Quickfire Questions and Relationship Rules
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Why Most Relationships Fail (And How To Create One That Doesn’t)
50 min
311/18/2025Most people go into relationships hoping for the best — but rarely with the tools to make them last. In this episode, we unpack why most relationships fail and what it actually takes to create one that doesn’t. From understanding how to identify your emotional patterns to learning how self-awareness can unlock deeper connection, we explore the pragmatic steps to building a partnership that feels both impeccable and authentic.If you’ve ever felt ambivalent about love, stuck in the same conundrum of mismatched partners, or unsure where to start improving your current relationship, this conversation will help you shift perspective. It’s time to stop anticipating perfection — and start crafting a connection that’s truly divine for you.🎧 Listen now to discover how real transformation in love begins long before you meet “the one.”
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The Importance of Quality Relationships
43 min
311/18/2025Summary In this conversation, Ash and Jodie explore the significance of quality relationships in both personal and professional contexts. They discuss the importance of strategic relationship building, the role of context in communication, and common mistakes leaders make. Jodie shares her framework for deepening relationships and emphasizes the art of listening as a crucial skill. The discussion also touches on personal growth through miscommunication and the value of humility and courage in relationships. Takeaways Quality relationships dictate the quality of our lives.It's not about the number of relationships, but the quality.Building relationships requires strategic thinking.Context is essential in communication.Listening is a vital skill that is often overlooked.It's okay to admit you don't have all the answers.Lead with love and intentionality in relationships.Smiling can significantly impact interpersonal dynamics.Nurturing relationships is like tending to a garden.You can develop skills to improve your relationships. Takeaways Quality relationships dictate the quality of our lives.It's not about the number of relationships, but the quality.Building relationships requires strategic thinking.Context is essential in communication.Listening is a vital skill that is often overlooked.It's okay to admit you don't have all the answers.Lead with love and intentionality in relationships.Smiling can significantly impact interpersonal dynamics.Nurturing relationships is like tending to a garden.You can develop skills to improve your relationships.
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The #1 Communication Mistake That Destroys Love (And How to Fix It)
59 min
311/18/2025In this episode of the Relationships Lab podcast, Ash and Valerie explore the complexities of love and relationships, discussing the nature of love, the importance of personal growth, and the dynamics of interdependence versus independence. They delve into communication strategies, the role of commitment in modern relationships, and the impact of cultural differences on expressions of love. Valerie shares insights on navigating parenting decisions, conflict resolution, and the future of marriage, emphasizing the need for emotional safety and shared values in successful relationships. Takeaways Love is an energy we open up to, not create from within.True love requires shared values and vision.Interdependence is healthier than emotional dependence.Communication is key to understanding needs in relationships.Commitment can take many forms beyond marriage.Cultural differences shape how we express love.Physical attraction can complicate commitment.Compatibility often hinges on shared values and goals.Emotional safety is crucial for a lasting relationship.Deep conversations can resolve unsolvable conflicts. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Love and Relationships02:58 The Nature of Love and Personal Growth05:54 Interdependence vs. Independence in Relationships09:05 Navigating Needs and Communication11:58 The Role of Commitment in Modern Relationships14:48 Cultural Differences in Love Expression17:45 The Impact of Physical Attraction on Commitment20:51 Understanding Compatibility and Shared Values23:43 The Importance of Emotional Safety26:33 Parenting Decisions and Relationship Dynamics29:21 Conflict Resolution and Deep Conversations32:35 The Future of Marriage and Commitment35:32 Final Thoughts and Relationship Hacks
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Why Do Couples Struggle With Trust?
47 min
311/18/2025In this episode of the Relationship Lab Podcast, Ash and Raffi Bilek delve into the essence of happiness through love and relationships. They discuss the relevance of marriage in today's society, the challenges of modern dating, and the impact of technology on relationships. Raffi emphasizes the importance of communication and aligning life goals in relationships, while also addressing cultural differences and the role of commitment in marriage. The conversation concludes with a quickfire round of insights and advice for maintaining healthy relationships. Happiness is fundamentally linked to the quality of relationships.Marriage remains relevant as it fosters deep connections and commitment.Modern dating presents unique challenges, including the influence of technology.Effective communication is crucial for resolving conflicts in relationships.Understanding cultural differences can enhance relationship dynamics.Investing time and effort is essential for nurturing relationships.Taking breaks during conflicts can lead to better communication outcomes.Aligning life goals is vital for long-term relationship success.Commitment in marriage provides security for building a family.Flexibility and understanding are key traits of a successful partner. Chapters 00:00 The Essence of Happiness: Love and Relationships02:39 Marriage in Modern Society: Relevance and Investment05:27 Navigating the Digital Dating Landscape08:10 The Impact of Modern Life on Relationships11:04 Staying Together for the Kids: A Double-Edged Sword13:43 Communication: The Key to Relationship Success16:42 Aligning Life Goals in Relationships19:19 Cultural Differences and Relationship Values26:12 Cultural Perspectives on Parenting and Family Dynamics28:02 Navigating Difficult Conversations in Relationships31:13 Understanding Financial Implications of Family Planning34:26 The Role of Commitment in Modern Relationships38:28 Quickfire Round: Insights on Relationship Success
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Yes! Cheating is Good For Marriage
47 min
311/18/2025In this engaging conversation, Paul Keable shares his insights on relationships, infidelity, and the psychology behind why people cheat. He emphasizes the importance of understanding emotional needs, effective communication, and the complexities of modern relationships. Paul discusses his journey with Ashley Madison, the findings from various studies on infidelity, and the evolving dynamics of marriage and non-monogamy. He also reflects on personal experiences and offers valuable advice for navigating relationship challenges. Takeaways The price of criticism is a better idea.Listening is not enough; we must hear our partners.Understanding underlying motivations is key to resolving conflicts.Discretion is a fundamental aspect of infidelity.Women often seek emotional validation in relationships.Men need to be educated about female sexual needs.Defining cheating varies for each individual.Open communication is essential for intimacy.Marriage is a legal construct, but emotional bonds are innate.Regularly renegotiating relationship needs can strengthen bonds. Chapters 00:00 The Power of Constructive Criticism01:09 Understanding Relationship Challenges03:25 Paul's Journey into Relationship Expertise06:06 The Psychology of Cheating08:46 Emotional Needs in Relationships10:59 Navigating the Landscape of Infidelity14:12 Defining Cheating: A Personal Perspective16:53 Confronting Infidelity: A Complex Dilemma21:14 The Good Wife Study: Gender Bias in Adultery25:23 The Changing Dynamics of Marriage32:54 The Future of Relationships: Monogamy vs. Non-Monogamy41:22 Lessons Learned from Personal Experience43:41 Quickfire Round: Insights and Advice
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How to Raise Your Kids in 21 Century
53 min
311/18/2025In this conversation, David Marcus, a clinical psychologist with over 40 years of experience, shares his insights on modern parenting challenges, the importance of emotional communication, and strategies for building strong relationships with children. He emphasizes the need for predictable time with children, the significance of teaching responsibility, and the impact of socialization on child development. David also discusses the balance between providing a comfortable lifestyle and meeting emotional needs, offering practical advice for parents navigating today's complexities. Takeaways The questions about psychology remain unchanged since ancient times.Every individual requires a unique approach in therapy.Predictable time with children fosters emotional connections.Children need appropriate stimulation for healthy development.Teaching responsibility helps children appreciate their achievements.Wealth can complicate parenting and emotional growth.Socialization is crucial for children's emotional health.A soothing presence is vital for effective communication.Time spent with children is the most valuable investment.Music and creative outlets can serve as personal therapy. Chapters 00:00 The Journey of a Psychologist07:15 Modern Parenting Challenges12:36 Building Emotional Connections with Children19:19 The Importance of Self-Esteem in Development29:57 Lessons on Responsibility and Independence31:24 Balancing Financial and Emotional Support32:56 Generational Wealth and Its Impact34:55 The Influence of Wealth on Youth Behavior36:02 Teaching Kids the Value of Money40:35 The Importance of Socialization in Child Development44:22 Learning from Experience: Parenting Strategies47:24 Lightning Round: Quickfire Parenting Tips
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The Dilemma of Staying Together for the Kids
52 min
311/18/2025In this enlightening conversation, Ash and Kanika Energy Coach delve into the complexities of modern relationships, parenting dilemmas, and the transformative power of energy coaching. Kanika shares her personal experiences and insights on the importance of self-awareness, emotional health, and the impact of energy on relationships. The discussion covers practical energy tools that can be integrated into daily life, the challenges of parenting, and the significance of authenticity and communication in maintaining healthy relationships. Kanika emphasizes the need to connect with oneself and the universe to foster personal growth and harmony in relationships. Takeaways Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice.Children are perceptive and understand more than we think.Staying together for the kids can lead to emotional strain.It's essential to consider the legacy we leave for our children.Energy coaching helps individuals understand their worthiness.Grounding techniques can help release negative energy.Integrating happiness into daily routines is crucial.Surrendering to the universal flow can lead to personal growth.Authenticity and truth are vital in relationships.Physical intimacy requires open communication and emotional honesty. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Motivational Insights03:17 Staying Together for the Kids: A Dilemma09:12 The Choice of Parenthood: To Have or Not to Have11:47 Energy Coaching: Understanding Relationship Dynamics16:08 Transformative Client Stories: Overcoming Challenges21:47 Practical Energy Tools for Everyday Life26:32 Preparing for Sensitive Discussions29:17 Grounding and Energy Work in Relationships33:20 Integrating Energy Tools into Busy Lives38:07 Lessons Learned and Regrets44:05 Lightning Round: Quickfire Relationship Insights
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Why 70% of Relationships Don’t Last
43 min
311/18/2025In this episode of the Relationship Lab podcast, Ash interviews Jason Lange, who shares his insights on modern relationships, the importance of communication, and the challenges faced by younger generations. Jason discusses the need for emotional growth, the complexities of love and commitment, and strategies for maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships. He emphasizes the significance of navigating conflicts and the necessity of continuous dating within partnerships. The conversation also touches on the decision to move in together and evaluating relationship compatibility, culminating in a lightning round of quickfire questions. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Insights01:52 Navigating Modern Relationship Challenges05:00 The Importance of Commitment and Growth09:48 Understanding Love and Relationship Dynamics11:55 The Balance of Safety and Attraction17:48 Strategies for Sustaining Connection in Relationships22:53 Navigating Modern Relationships36:21 Lessons Learned in Love40:42 Quickfire Relationship TipsTakeaways The model for healthy relationships is often lacking in our upbringing.Emotional connection and communication are crucial for relationship success.Falling out of love can be a sign of deeper issues that need addressing.Relationships require ongoing effort and commitment from both partners.It's important to create moments of intimacy and connection regularly.Navigating conflict effectively is key to a healthy relationship.Independence and personal growth are essential in partnerships.The transition from dating to living together can reveal new dynamics.Learning to communicate openly about feelings is vital for relationship health.Every relationship will face challenges, but growth can come from them.
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Open relationships can work, but they may not last long term.
43 min
311/18/2025In this conversation, Ash and Indra explore the complexities of modern relationships, touching on themes such as open relationships, cultural differences, and the fundamental needs of individuals in partnerships. Indra shares insights from his extensive experience in helping people navigate their relationship challenges, emphasizing the importance of communication, acceptance, and personal growth. The discussion also highlights how cultural backgrounds influence relationship dynamics and the significance of allowing space for individuality within partnerships. The conversation concludes with a lightning round of quickfire questions, providing practical advice for maintaining healthy relationships. Takeaways Open relationships can work, but they may not last long-term.People often seek something special in relationships, not just companionship.Cultural differences can significantly impact relationship dynamics.Acceptance of oneself is crucial for accepting others in a relationship.Communication is key to resolving conflicts and understanding each other.Honesty and authenticity foster deeper connections in relationships.It's important to give partners space to grow individually.Navigating relationship challenges requires patience and understanding.Personal growth is essential for a successful partnership.Relationships are about mutual respect and understanding, not just physical intimacy. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Motivational Quote02:25 Exploring Open Relationships06:07 Understanding Relationship Needs10:03 Cultural Differences in Relationships18:29 Navigating Relationship Challenges24:05 The Impact of Cultural Expectations30:22 Personality and Relationship Dynamics37:25 Can People Change for Love?40:03 Lightning Round: Quickfire Questions