EP 222: Mike's Story

Mike recounts early exposure to pornography, shame shaped by church messaging, family dynamics, and later learning his biological father’s sexual addiction, then baptizing him before his mission. He describes a canceled temple wedding due to church discipline, continued struggles after marriage, and his shift toward inner work, self-compassion, and a reframe of repentance as metanoia—a fresh view of self, God, and the world—emphasizing wholeness over perfection and connection as the antidote. He recommends “Lean on Me” as his recovery song. He discusses his pivot from branding and graphic design into men’s work, retreats, and breathwork, including co-founding the HEARE Brotherhood. Connect with Mike and get resources here: - www.thelightinus.org - www.hearebros.com - LinkedInMake a donation and become an Outsider!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! contact@unashamedunafraid.comTimestamps: 01:11 Making Repair Story 03:05 Meet Mike Allen 03:20 Career Pivot and Purpose 06:32 Family Crest Breakthrough 07:41 First Mens Retreat Leap 10:05 Breathwork Heart Opening 12:22 HearBrotherhood Origin 13:46 Early Porn Exposure 14:39 Family Context and Masculinity 17:28 Shame and Church Messages 20:43 Bio Dad Addiction Reveal 23:11 Baptizing His Dad 23:48 Engagement Secrets 25:02 Recommend Taken Away 27:40 Wedding Canceled 30:28 Marriage Did Not Fix It 31:24 Beyond Twelve Steps 34:51 Metanoia Not Shame 37:30 Opposition And Shadow 40:04 Golden Nuggets 45:06 Find Mike Online 45:47 Lean On Me Finale