Why Keeping the Peace Could Be Costing You Everything w/ Colette Fehr

Colette Fehr is a leading relationship expert, certified emotionally focused couples therapist, author, and TEDx speaker whose work has been featured as a TED Editor’s Pick. Through her practice and her book, The Cost of Quiet, she has empowered hundreds of couples to break cycles of conflict avoidance and master the art of secure, lasting communication. In today’s episode, Colette joins me to discuss her personal relaunch journey, the cost of staying silent in a marriage, its effects on many women, and how you can find your voice. We dive into the hidden cost of keeping the peace and why women often silence themselves to avoid being difficult, annoying, or “too much.” Colette explains “good girl-itis” and the four most devastating results of self-silencing. Colette also shares how she navigates difficult conversations in business, media, and her own life. She explains how to recognize the difference between intuition and fear, reconnect with yourself, and decide when something needs to be said. Join us today as we dive into the cost of staying silent, finding your voice, navigating conflict, building self-connected communication, and how to have the conversations that can change your relationships, business, and life. —Read Colette’s book, “The Cost of Quiet” to learn how staying silent can affect your relationships, and discover how to have the conversations you’ve been avoiding >> https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book? —Watch Colette’s TEDx talk, Secrets of a Couples Therapist so you can gain practical insights into communication and relationships from a couples therapist. >> https://youtu.be/8tSUOB2yEd0?si=L0WxmnJTOe6YMPdz —Subscribe to Colette’s Secrets from a Therapist Substack: To get free relationship advice and insights to help you better understand your relationships and communicate with confidence. >> https://colettejanefehr.substack.com/ —If this episode lit something inside you, that quiet knowing that you’re meant for more, then I want to personally invite you into the most powerful room of the year. ReLaunch To A Rich Life LIVE is a transformative, neuroscience-backed 3-day experience happening September 17–19, 2026 in Scottsdale, Arizona. It’s designed for women who are done playing small and ready to step into clarity, confidence, and next-level success, not just in business, but in health, wealth, relationships, and life. This isn’t another event, it’s a quantum upgrade into the life you’re meant to live. Join women who are ready to rewire their identity, elevate their frequency, and claim a Rich Life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. Learn more and join us in September: https://www.relaunchtoarichlife.com —Visit Colette Fehr’s website: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/ Connect with Colette on:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1BxMhMP6LL/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/colettejanefehr?Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/colette-jane-fehr-lmft-lmhc-3b3b711b? —Connect with Hilary:Website: https://therelaunch.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hilarydecesare/FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/TheReLaunchCo Interested in being a guest on the ReLaunch Podcast or booking Hilary as a guest? Email us at hello@therelaunch.com Find Us on Your Favorite Podcast App - https://the-silver-lined-relaunch.captivate.fm/listen