The Manipulative Side of People Pleasing Nobody Talks About

People pleasing carries a manipulative side that often goes unrecognized, even when the intent behind it is never to cause harm. At its core, people pleasing is a coping mechanism used to manage the discomfort of disagreement, boundaries, and taking up space, and it serves the ego of the person pleasing rather than the relationship itself. This episode traces the pattern back to the fawning response, a survival strategy that trades authenticity for safety, and unpacks how that trade creates an unspoken debt between partners: giving without expressing true needs, then expecting devotion in return. Left unaddressed, this dynamic breeds resentment, passive aggression, and emotional distance. Lorin breaks down the difference between intent and impact, how the norm of reciprocity operates beneath the surface of every relationship, and what it actually takes to move from a transactional dynamic to a devotional one. Useful for people pleasers and for anyone in relationship with one.Mentioned in this episode:Healing the Mother Wound - Brand New Edition A 2.5-hour live online workshop with Lorin KrennThe Core Method™ The trademarked, unique and universal coaching framework for deep transformation