Ep 242: Tended, Pt 4 - When Everyone Else Looks Like They Have It Together

Have you ever looked around at other interior designers and thought, What do they know that I don't? They're booked out. Their projects look incredible. Their social media is polished. They seem confident, successful, and completely on top of their business. Meanwhile, you're staring at a quiet pipeline, difficult clients, late shipments, team issues, or a slow month and wondering if you're doing something terribly wrong. In this final episode of Tended, Michelle Lynne gets unusually honest about a season when her own business looked successful from the outside—but felt anything but successful on the inside. After unexpectedly losing two key team members in 2023, navigating the launch of Studio Works and Sidemark, and then experiencing a prolonged slowdown in leads through 2024 and 2025, Michelle found herself questioning everything—including whether she should walk away from her design firm altogether. And yet, if you had followed ML Interiors Group on social media during that time, you probably would have had no idea. The projects were still being photographed. The posts were still going out. The business was still moving. That's the point. You are comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else's highlight reel. And that comparison can lead you to make decisions based on information you don't actually have. In this episode, Michelle talks about: What it feels like to go through a genuinely difficult season while your business still looks successful from the outside Why social media gives you an incomplete picture of another designer's business The danger of assuming that a designer who is "swamped" is necessarily profitable or successful Why busyness and business success are not the same thing How industry events and conversations at market can fuel comparison Why year-end highlight reels can make a slow season feel even worse How Michelle pulled herself out of the comparison spiral by returning to her own numbers, pipeline, margins, clients, marketing, and team The difference between learning from another designer and reshaping your business because of what you see them doing Why slow seasons don't necessarily mean you're falling behind The reminder that you are not uniquely behind and probably aren't missing some magical secret everyone else has figured out The big takeaway The version of someone else's business that you can see is always edited. You don't know their margins. You don't know their client relationships. You don't know whether they're profitable. You don't know what is happening behind the beautiful project photos or the confident conversation at market. So before you change your positioning, blow up your brand, restructure your services, or decide that everyone else has figured something out that you haven't, come back to your own business. Look at your actual numbers. Your pipeline. Your margins. Your clients. Your marketing. Your team. Your goals. Your business needs a North Star—not a comparison. And perhaps most importantly, remember: You are not separate from your business. Tending to yourself isn't the soft work or the extra work. It's part of the work. Running an interior design firm is hard. You don't have to pretend otherwise. Ready for support? If this episode—and the entire Tended series—hit a little too close to home, private coaching may be the right next step. Michelle works with interior designers who want experienced guidance from someone who understands the realities of building and running a design firm. Learn more about Private Coaching at Design Bakehouse. Join Michelle at the Northeast Design Conference Michelle will be speaking at the Northeastern Design Conference during the first week of October. Use code MICHELLE10 for 10% off your registration. Check the show notes for conference details and registration information.