Podcast Episode

What Is Actually Yours? [Pt. 5]

I Love Coaching Podcast··9 August 2026·25 min

About this episode

You've borrowed a framework, a certification, maybe even a whole business model, and now you're wondering if any of it is actually yours. That question is the one Adam Roach and Jess Webber have been circling for four episodes, and this is where they finally answer it.This episode closes out the "Is This Actually Yours?" series (message, offer, client, authority) by zooming out to the bigger pattern underneath all four. Every coach starts somewhere borrowed. You take a certification, you model a mentor, you lean on someone else's framework to quiet the imposter syndrome long enough to get moving. That's not the problem. The problem is staying there. Adam and Jess argue that once you've put in the reps inside someone else's system, you've already built something of your own, you just haven't named it yet.Jess frames it as permission: you don't need to burn down what you've built and start over. You need to start noticing what's already yours inside it. Adam gives that permission a shape with a simple test: take your name, add the word "way," and see what's actually true when you fill in that blank. Jess Way. Adam Way. Your Way. If you can describe how you do something in your own words, without leaning on someone else's language, that's your IP.What you'll learn:Why "how you" beats "how-to" when it comes to actually attracting the right peopleThe exact one-line test (Insert Name + Way) for identifying what's already yoursWhy relational buyers, the people who already trust you, are the ones who'll tell you what your IP even isHow two real coaches (Jesse Jean and Callan Faulkner) found their language by naming a specific problem instead of copying a frameworkWhy "clear, not clever" beats sophisticated positioning every timeHow outsourcing your voice to AI without your own experience behind it backfires The big idea here is simple on purpose. Adam and Jess spend the episode pushing back on the instinct to make your IP sound impressive. Real ownership isn't a bigger vocabulary or a more elaborate framework, it's specificity. What did you actually live through, and can you say it plainly enough that someone else recognizes their own problem in it?Notable quote: "You need to be clear, not clever. Whatever your IP is, whatever your authority is, whoever your people are, just be clear, not clever." — Adam RoachResources mentioned:ILC's Maslow's Mountain series (referenced for language and positioning)Jesse Jean, "the Yap Challenge lady," referenced as a case study in owning a simple IP statementCallan Faulkner, referenced for her AI-in-business challenge and the pivot from borrowed authority to her own storyILC community: ilovecoachingco.comInstagram: @ilovecoachingco / @adamrroach / @thejesswebberYouTube: youtube.com/@ilovecoachingco Ready to figure out what's actually yours? The ILC community is where coaches go to stop borrowing and start building something that's genuinely theirs. ilovecoachingco.com