Two Dads, One Mom, and a Whole New Way to Think About Family

What happens when three people intentionally choose to build a family together?Vikram Kolmannskog is a psychotherapist, writer, and dad raising his four-year-old son with his husband, Daniel, and their son's mother, Cecilia. From finding each other through a queer family forum to navigating home insemination, biology, and the realities of three-parent co-parenting, their path to family is anything but traditional.Vikram and Jaimie talk about the messy reality of parenting, biological vs. non-biological connection, the pressure to identify the "real" dad, and the deeply ingrained gender roles that still tell us mothers should nurture while fathers should provide.It's a conversation about rupture and repair, challenging the rules we've inherited, and what queer families can teach us about what really makes someone a parent.Because family isn't biology. It's love, commitment—and sometimes a whole lot of mess.🏳️‍🌈 Key TakeawaysWhy Vikram and Daniel chose intentional co-parentingFinding their child's mother through a queer family forumThe very queer logistics of making a baby togetherNavigating three-parent co-parenting when reality didn't match the planBiology, non-biological parenting, and the idea of the "real" parentWhy their family kept biological paternity private for the first yearThe gendered expectations placed on mothers and fathersBreastfeeding, formula, and the pressure placed on parentsHow therapy helped their family move through conflict and repairWhy "messy" has become one of Vikram's favorite words for parenting 🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)Vikram Kolmannskog is the author of Reflections on Parenting from a Gestalt Therapist Father: Life with Leo, a personal exploration of his first years of parenthood. 🏳️‍🌈 Resources MentionedVikram’s WebsiteVikram’s InstagramVikram’s Book  🏳️‍🌈 Interested in advertising? Email thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com 🎧 Loved this episode?Support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for exclusive bonus content and help keep these stories alive!OR become a paid subscriber through our RedCircle page for bonus episodes and one-time or recurring donations:🔗 redcircle.com/thequeerfamilypodcast/exclusive-content🏳️‍🌈 What resonated most with you?Drop a comment, DM us, or email thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com—we love hearing your stories!🏳️‍🌈 Let’s Connect!Find us on IG, TikTok, Bluesky, & YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast 🏳️‍🌈 Watch full episodes on YouTube 🏳️‍🌈 Order the If These Ovaries Could Talk book 🏳️‍🌈 Edited by: Jerson Barajas 🏳️‍🌈 Theme Song by: Tiffany Topol 🏳️‍🌈 Logo by: Daneen Stevenato 🏳️‍🌈 Shop merch here. 🏳️‍🌈 Full transcript & episode info available on our website🗳️ VOTE. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ ADVOCATE. 🍼 BUILD QUEER FAMILIES.The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a trusted professional for your specific situation! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-queer-family-podcast/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy