060 - The Power Of The Nervous System, Attachment Styles, Safety & Sexuality With Alyssa Stefanson

Connect with Alyssa here: https://www.instagram.com/thealyssastefanson/ https://wakingthewildwoman.com/ Alyssa’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/waking-the-wild-woman-podcast/id1610872385 1:34 - Oura ring helps Ashley slow down https://ouraring.com/ashleytaylorwellness 1:57 - Alyssa just got her Oura ring and loves it! 2:17 - Alyssa used to sleep like a baby, but when she moved a lot changed, a sleep routine & the Oura ring helped her a lot 4:19 - “The hills” & “Uplands” on the Oura ring https://ouraring.com/ashleytaylorwellness 6:15 - Why is going from go-go-go to rest not going to work? 7:39 - Dorsal, polyvagal theory & immobility response 8:20 - Shakes it off 9:50 - Functional Cranial Release 10:00 - Dura mater “tough mother” 11:15 - Most people are so in their heads and disconnected to their bodies 12:30 - So many women have supressed sexual energy 13:00 - Why Alyssa got into somatic work 17:00 - Safety & sexuality 23:00 - Pendulation 24:50 - So much medicine in gentleness, we heal our nervous system with small tolerable steps 25:00 - Boring exercises really work over time 27:50 - Yes we want to grow, but we also need safety 28:20 - Our nervous system is our attachment style, we then have more capacity for abundance and more in every area of life 32:28 - Root chakra by MitoZen (One time $10 PMA fee, ASHLEYTAYLORWELLNESS saves you $) https://www.mitozen.club/?ref=Lx15YMHzqBnYBd 35:31 - Attachment styles 43:20 - Parts, IFS, 8 C’s 44:45 - Inner child, find a photo of your younger self 45:32 - Perfectionism meets a need 45:46 - People pleasing 46:45 - Boundaries actually bring us closer, safety statements 48:50 - “Getting The Love You Want” Book, Imago therapy 51:51 - Communication is like baseball, you can throw the ball but were they in receiving mode? 52:40 - The delivery changes the meaning of the message for a lot of people 58:20 - Ask your partner or friends “what was conflict resolution like in your family?” 1:00:00 - Therapy is great for couples because it’s a neutral place and like a translator 1:01:30 - Would you let a 5 year old cut your hair? No.  1:04:15 - Relationship is a spiritual path 1:07:00 - Show your nervous system that it’s safe, telling it doesn’t work that way How to work with Alyssa Waking The Wild Woman: https://wakingthewildwoman.com/ Through Kaylor: https://awakeandwinning.lpages.co/theawlife/ Interested in 1:1 coaching? Click here: https://ashleytaylorwellness.as.me/schedule/8230ed17 Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/ashleytaylorwellness/ https://www.instagram.com/highmaintenancehippiepodcast/