When You’re the One Holding You Back

Finished listening to this episode? Share your feedback with me. In this episode, I’m sharing the truth I had to swallow myself: when we make excuses for our problems, we keep those problems alive. Inspired by a line in Why Did I Get Married? and a recent conversation with friends, I take you through the moments that made me face my own excuses — from my health to my workload to the habits I’d been justifying instead of changing. I talk through how accountability really feels, how overworking myself knocked me out, and why some of the things we’re carrying (from weight to relationships to business struggles) trace back to choices we’ve been avoiding. This episode is your invitation to stop holding on to what’s hurting you and start focusing on what you can control with honesty, grace, and clarity. Grab your drink, take a sip, and let’s chat. TL;DR We talk about the hard truth that when we make excuses, we keep our problems. I share how accountability showed up in my own health, habits, and hard decisions — and how shifting from excuses to action can change everything. This episode is an invitation to be honest, choose differently, and take back control. TIME STAMPS  00:00 – Opening Thoughts: Tyler Perry, Movie Lessons & Excuses 01:00 – Welcome Back & Coffee Chat 02:20 – “If We Make Excuses, We Keep the Problem.” 03:45 – The Excuse Patterns We Don’t Notice 06:00 – My Real Reason for Getting Sick 08:20 – Burnout, Boundaries & Overworking Myself 10:40 – Weight, Food, Habits & Hard Truths 12:50 – Trauma Weight & What My Therapist Told Me 14:40 – What We Can Control vs. What We Can’t 15:30 – One Small Step Toward Accountability 16:40 – Closing Reflections & Clarity Moment CONNECT WITH ME Fan Page IG Threads  Facebook  RESOURCES Note: I do not have any affiliations with, sponsorships or endorsements from any of the resources mentioned. They are listed for your reference. Mental Health Resources Suicide and Crisis Lifeline  Ph: 988 Psychology Today  National Institute of Mental Health  Sexual Violence Resources RAIIN Ph: 800.656.HOPE (4673) Substance Abuse Resources U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Alcoholics Anonymous Al-Anon Family Groups CREDITS  Podcast Editor: Payton Cross Productions Support the show