#89 When You're So Focused on What's Next That You Miss What's Now Actually Living in Your Life

How often are you so busy thinking about what's next that you barely notice what's happening right now?There are things that need to get done. People we want to care for. Plans to make, responsibilities to manage, and experiences we're working hard to create.But sometimes, even when the moment changes, some part of us is still caught up in What's next? What's next? What's next?And what might become possible if we notice?In this episode, Trish shares a seemingly small moment during a family day at the Renaissance Faire that helped her recognize a familiar pattern in real time and discover that something different was available.Not an instant, dramatic transformation. Not the absolute end of an old pattern. Just a breath, a bench, some music, a hand to hold, and a few minutes of experiencing the life that was already happening.In this episode, you'll learn:How a nervous system response that is helpful in one moment may continue even after the conditions around us have changed.Why familiar patterns don't need to be judged or eliminated before something new can begin to happen.How simply noticing an old pattern can matter, even when doing something differently isn't yet available.Why understanding what a familiar response has offered us can create more room for compassion rather than shame.How our own patterns can influence our availability for connection with the people we love.Why slowing down can sometimes feel harder than it sounds, especially when staying in motion has served an important purpose.How small moments of doing something differently can begin creating new evidence about what's possible.What it can mean to participate more fully in the relationships and the life you're already living.Oftentimes, change doesn't begin with doing something big.It often begins with noticing where you are, getting curious about what's available now, and discovering that this particular moment doesn't have to unfold exactly the way the familiar ones have before.Because a breath can matter.A few minutes can matter.Reaching for someone's hand can matter.And small moments of change can become part of something much bigger.If you and your partner are ready to co-create the roadmap to the relationship of your dreams, join us for the next in-person "Getting the Love You Want" Weekend Couples Retreat! For support in how to have deeper connections and better communication in the relationships that matter most in your life, follow the host, Trish Sanders on Instagram , Bluesky or LinkedIn.