Vestibulectomy on Screen: Bonnie Gross on Lady Parts and Her Second Surgery

If you are googling vestibulectomy recovery at 2am, this one is for you.Bonnie Gross has had the surgery twice, ten years apart, and she is unusually good at describing it - she wrote and executive produced Lady Parts, the award-winning comedy based on the first one. We recorded this four weeks after her second.Most of this conversation is the practical side she could not fit in the film: the pre-surgery shopping list, the recovery timeline week by week, the insurance denial, the graft taken from inside her cheek, and what dilator work is really like afterwards.Sponsors:Pelva - pelva.com, code TWTC10 for 10% offOrigin - theoriginway.com/TWTC, code TWTC for a free month of OnTrackConnect with Bonnie:IG: @ladyparts_filmWebsite: ladypartsfilm.comConnect with Mathilde:IG: @theworldstightestcommunityWebsite: theworldstightestcommunity.comSign up to the newsletter: https://tinyurl.com/4h4snzzdSupport the podcast: https://tinyurl.com/mtxnzhsdChapters:00:00:00 Cold Open: Lady Parts Trailer00:01:29 Welcome, Episode Overview00:02:58 Bonnie Gross, Four Weeks Post Op00:04:06 Lady Parts, Comedy Drama, True Story00:06:31 College, Penetration, Clothes, Sitting00:07:17 Three Years Searching; Gaslighting at 1900:10:43 Dr. Amy Stein, Referral to Dr. Goldstein00:11:14 Cost, Q-Tip Test, Being Believed00:12:05 Ruling Out Hormonal Vestibulodynia00:13:33 Surgery on the Table; Capsaicin00:17:06 Vestibule Clock, 12 O'Clock, Urethra00:17:46 Nerve Endings Left, Buccal Graft00:18:49 Endometriosis, Hypermobility Overlap00:20:09 Denied as Cosmetic, $10,000, No Code00:21:12 Eighty Percent Relief, Ten to Four00:22:28 Sponsor: Pelva00:23:54 Sponsor: Origin00:25:29 Practical Prep; Sitz Baths00:27:35 Peri Bottle, Pee Pads With Adhesive00:28:38 Nightgowns, Robes, Going Commando00:29:12 Ice Packs, Liquid Meds, Soft Foods00:30:41 Outpatient Surgery, Going Home00:32:14 Legs Together, No Sitting, No Shower00:33:13 Six Weeks in Bed, Needing Full Care00:34:14 Pain by Phase, 24 Hours to Two Weeks00:36:47 Mouth Pain, Graft Site, Fast Healing00:38:12 Walking by Day Two, Itchy Stitches00:38:52 Tool: Take the Pain Meds00:39:24 Stitches, Donut Pillow, Back to Work00:41:41 Clitoral Adhesions, Hood Retraction00:43:17 Physiotherapy, Scar Tissue, Dilators00:46:54 Tool: A Chair at the Edge of the Bath00:48:10 Time Off Work, Desk Jobs, Commuting00:51:03 Mesh Undies, Ice Packs, Baby Food00:53:52 Periods in Recovery, Free Bleeding00:55:19 IUD, No Period Through Surgery00:56:33 Making Lady Parts, Ten Years01:00:53 Life Savings, Making the Film, On Set01:02:01 Festivals, Distribution, Screenings01:04:57 Where to Watch: Prime, Tubi, Kinema01:06:12 GoFundMe, Where to Find Bonnie01:07:20 Outro, Reviews, Supporting the Show