Does the healing come before the LOVE? | Mia Vivon

Mia Vivone's measure of a relationship is not the bouquet. It is the man who drove through a parking lot in the pouring rain to help a stranded couple. It was around Valentine's Day, the couple was stalled in the middle of a five lane road, and he happened to be carrying a charging box. She filmed it, posted it, and said: this is the man that I chose.Sherry and Mia talk about what happens when the beliefs we absorbed as children start choosing our partners for us. Mia is back on the Soft Power Project after their first conversation about trauma and the nervous system, this time to say what emotional availability actually means. Not the absence of conflict. She defines it through conflict.From dating apps to princess treatment to the fifty three years it took her to go no contact with her own mother.When a couple tells her they never fight, what she hears is how much has frozen. How long ago the talking went quiet and the flirting stopped. And the women waiting to meet someone already healed are waiting for something she has not found in herself. The more she grows, the more comes for her to grow.Mia says soft power is a sacred commitment to keep the promises she makes to herself. No matter what, she will honor who she is.If nobody has ever shown you what repair sounds like, this is a good place to begin.0:00 - Intro 1:10 - Same song, different partner 2:38 - What the dating apps make harder 11:19 - Can you do the work alone? 16:10 - Emotional availability and conflict 28:26 - Princess treatment and what it costs 33:22 - The beliefs we inherit 45:25 - Stability, not rich 52:44 - Soft power in a relationshipMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Mia's first appearance, Episode 102: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sVCRNJxuqvMThe UNTRIGGERED Woman Trauma Transformation System: https://miavivone.com/the-untriggered-woman-trauma-transformation-systemDr. Aaron Beck on cognitive schema: https://beckinstitute.org/about/dr-aaron-t-beck/ABOUT MIA VIVONE:Mia Vivone is a relationship and success coach for trauma survivors and the creator of The UNTRIGGERED Woman Trauma Transformation System. She raised two children mostly alone after coming out of an abusive relationship, working two and three jobs across eleven years of college. She hosts The Untriggered Woman Podcast. https://miavivone.com/ https://www.instagram.com/mia_vivone/#SoftPowerProject #Relationships #EmotionalAvailability #WomenPodcastLeave a comment and share your thoughts: https://open.firstory.me/user/cm5etbvm00a1i01sl6k6h99de/commentsYoutube Instagram Would you like to share your life stories? Please fill out this form. See you there~