4 Hidden Ways You're Teaching Them to Do LESS

If you are always the one holding the relationship together, solving the problems, planning everything, and anticipating every need, you may think you are being a great partner.But you may actually be teaching the other person to do less.In this episode, Coach Los breaks down four hidden ways overfunctioning in relationships creates emotional imbalance, resentment, and burnout. If you constantly feel like you are doing all the work in your relationship, carrying the emotional load, or wondering why your partner never steps up, the problem may not only be what they are failing to do. It may also be the space you are not leaving for them to contribute.Coach Los breaks down:Why anticipating every need can become anxiety management instead of loveHow overfunctioning can weaken accountability in a relationshipWhy fixing problems before they happen can stop your partner from growingHow doing emotional labor for two creates an unhealthy imbalanceWhy speaking for your partner keeps them from using their own voiceHow avoiding conflict can turn into self-silencingWhy healthy relationships need mutual responsibility, not one person carrying everythingCoach Los also explores why overfunctioning often comes from fear.Fear that things will fall apart.Fear that you will not be enough.Fear that if you stop doing everything, the relationship will stop working.But healthy love requires room for both people to participate.Because you show people how to love you by giving them the opportunity to actually show up for you.