Right or Happy | Ep 71

There's a window, ten to twenty seconds, where your body decides what happens next in an argument, before you're even aware you're reacting. This week we'll cover what's actually happening in that window, why explosion and shutdown are the only two exits most men were ever taught, and what specifically hijacks that window before you get a real choice. Why the 15 seconds before you explode or shut down are physical, not just emotional Why white-knuckling your reaction isn't the same as regulating it Why you might feel compelled to correct her version of events, and what's underneath that What actually interrupts the pattern toward explosion, and toward shutdown I'm hosting a free live webinar on September 10th at 2pm PT / 3pm MT / 4pm CT / 5pm ET. Join me live, I'll send the details soon.  Save your seat and register here: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration I'd love to have you there. 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/