Podcast Episode

Stop Asking If You're Normal | Ep 73

Create More Intimacy: A Podcast for Men··25 September 2026·15 min

About this episode

Is it normal to barely have sex in marriage? In this episode, we'll cover why a real, credible statistic about married couples still can't answer that question for you, and why chasing that number can quietly work against you, both with your wife and with yourself. We'll cover: What the actual research says about how often married couples have sex today Why a national average can't tell you anything true about your specific marriage How that number gets weaponized in arguments, or turned inward into shame about your body The real questions worth asking instead: whether you actually talk to her, whether you still see her, whether effort at home has become a transaction, whether you're relying on her memory instead of your own You'll hear why the question was never "am I normal," and what to ask instead. I'm also hosting a free live webinar on September 23rd at 3:00pm MT (2:00pm PT / 4:00pm CT / 5:00pm ET).  Join me live, I'd love to have you there: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/open-call-registration 🎧 Listen to all episodes at https://alisastoddard.com/podcast 💬 Want help figuring this out in your own relationship? Access my free Intimacy Training: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/opt-in Book a Relationship Clarity Call: https://alisa-stoddard.mykajabi.com/podcast-scheduling-page Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Find out more at https://alisastoddard.com/