20. What Do You Ask Your Child When They Come Home From Shul?

What happens when a child goes to shul… but never develops a taste for tefillah?In this deeply honest episode of Know Your Children, Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David explore the tension every parent feels between obligation and connection. Is “good chinuch” just getting children to sit quietly in shul — or helping them discover something that genuinely touches their soul?Through the lens of chush ha’ta’am — a child’s inner sense of taste and emotional connection — this shiur opens up difficult but essential questions about parenting, authenticity, fear, and what children actually experience when they walk into a beit knesset.Along the way, Rav Shlomo speaks about compliments, expectations, honesty in religious life, the emotional memory of shul, and why the question “How was davening?” may not be enough. ---------- For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com Join Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_tCHAPTERS 00:00 Sponsorship and Dedication for the Shiur 01:01 Humility Needed in Parenting Approaches 02:46 Introducing Chush HaTa’am Concept in Parenting 04:26 Taking Children to Shul: The Routine 05:35 Assessing the Child’s Reaction After Shul 08:30 When Kids Can Read Yet Miss the Meaning 10:48 Probing the Real Source of Shul Enjoyment 21:18 Role of Compliments in Encouraging Shul Attendance 23:24 Why Kids Need a Taste for Prayer 24:50 Balancing Obligations and Personal Experience 26:20 Adults Also Struggle with Shul Attendance 30:25 Modeling Joy in Shul for Kids 35:04 Unrealistic Expectations for Young Children 40:26 Honesty About Personal Shul Struggles 43:51 Fear vs. Authentic Parenting in Religion 45:10 When Answers Aren’t Satisfying 46:23 Isidor Rabi’s Deep Question to Children 47:35 Creating Spaces for Children’s Insight 49:37 Authenticity and Consistency Across Life 51:08 Modern Orthodoxy Identity Split 52:30 Family Tradition of Sitting Together 54:00 Changing Seats After Mourning 55:16 Rashi’s Query on Recounting Names