Who Are You When Nobody Needs Anything From You?

What happens when nobody needs anything from you?No problem to fix. No person to support. No deadline to hit. No one waiting for you to organize the thing, make the decision, keep everyone together or generally have your shit suspiciously together.Who are you then?In this solo episode, Gen explores what happens when our identity gets tangled up with being useful, and why being needed can feel so damn safe. Because if you know what everyone needs from you, you also know exactly who to be.We’re talking about the invisible roles we collect — the fixer, the strong one, the responsible one, the therapist friend, the high achiever — and the difference between having purpose and needing to be useful in order to feel valuable.Plus, Gen gives you five questions to uncover what you actually want when nobody else gets a vote, including one particularly uncomfortable one:What would you still want to achieve if nobody could ever know you achieved it?And then there’s your experiment for the week: one gloriously useless hour. No productivity. No self-improvement. No predetermined plan. Just asking yourself, what do I want right now?Because the goal isn’t to stop being generous, ambitious, reliable or needed.It’s to make sure you still exist underneath all the things you do for everybody else.🎧 Listen, try the hour, and send this episode to the person who might need permission to be gloriously fucking useless for a minute.💬 Join the free WithGen WhatsApp community to keep the conversation going.📱Follow Gen around on socials!Instagram | Medium | LinkedIn | SubstackYou are more than what you provide.