The Dirty Little Secret Behind Looking Capable - with Monica Wells

You can be capable, competent, the person everyone counts on—and still have a private story that says you’re too much, not enough, difficult, disorganized, or somehow doing life wrong.Monica Wells and I talk about what happens when the version of you everyone else sees doesn’t quite match what it feels like to be you.We get into the workarounds nobody sees, the words and judgments that can stick for years, and what it’s like to keep adapting without necessarily understanding what you’re adapting to. We talk about motherhood, the instinct to control or fix the people we love, and how hard it can be to let go when helping has become part of how you show love.And underneath all of it is a bigger question: what changes when you stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start getting curious about yourself instead?Sometimes the shift isn’t about becoming someone different. It’s finally seeing yourself—and the story you’ve been carrying—with more clarity.Something to think about:
“What have I been believing about myself that might not actually be true?”