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Things We Judge Our Partners For But Not Ourselves | Ep. 84

The Backdoor Podcast··21 September 2026·32 min

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Things We Judge Our Partners For But Not Ourselves | Ep. 81 Are we actually holding our partners to the same standards we hold ourselves to? In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast, we get honest about the relationship habits, behaviors, and double standards we’re quick to judge in our partners while giving ourselves a pass. We talk about the things that can create tension in relationships, including communication, jealousy, social media, friendships, effort, attraction, boundaries, and the expectations we place on our partners. We also discuss why it can be so much easier to notice someone else’s flaws than our own, and how a little self-awareness and accountability can change the way couples handle conflict. Topics discussed include: Double standards in relationships Behaviors we judge our partners for Holding yourself to the same standards Communication and texting expectations Jealousy and insecurity Social media and relationship boundaries Friendships and interactions with other people Effort, attention, and appreciation Attraction, flirting, and relationship expectations Recognizing your own hypocrisy Accountability and self-awareness in relationships When relationship standards become unfair Whether you're dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is a reminder that sometimes the person we need to take a closer look at isn't our partner—it's ourselves. Follow us on social media: Steph & Kayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.