Episode 29: You Can Change Your Partner (A Psychologist Explains) with Dr. David and Anna Helfand

Dr. David Helfand has watched over a decade of couples walk into his marriage retreats…and 92% of them are already weighing divorce. In this episode, he and his wife Anna (a therapist specializing in kids' anxiety) get specific about what actually separates the couples who rebuild from the ones who don't: why defensiveness is never just one person's fault, why "you can't change your partner" is a myth, and why nobody teaches us how to be married in the first place. They also open up about their own marriage, including the years their roles as breadwinner and caregiver completely flipped, and what that taught them about adapting instead of assuming compatibility is fixed. To find about more about Dr. David and Anna’s therapy practice, visit: LifeWise PLLC | Couples Therapy & Family Counseling | VermontFor more information on Dr. H’s marriage retreats, visit: Marriage Quest | Intensive, Private Marriage Retreats Center