Why Men Can't Find A Queen While Moving Like A Pawn | Real Men Real Talk 29

Summary You can't expect to find a queen while you're moving like a pawn.In this episode of Real Men, Real Talk, Hatch Catch talks about self-leadership, intentional decision-making, and becoming the man you're called to be before pursuing the relationship you desire.Too often, men react to life and relationships instead of making intentional moves. This conversation challenges you to stop confusing desire with direction, examine the kind of man you are becoming, and take responsibility for leading yourself before trying to lead a relationship.If you're seeking a meaningful, Kingdom-centered relationship, the question isn't simply “What kind of woman do I want?” It's also:“What kind of man do I need to be for the relationship I want?”From moving like a pawn to becoming a king, this episode explores proactive decision-making, accountability, intentionality, and self-leadership—and why wanting a queen doesn't necessarily mean you're ready for one. Listen in, reflect, and ask yourself: Are you just trying to become a king—or are you learning to be one?TakeawaysYou can't expect to find a queen while you're moving like a pawn.Leadership starts with self-leadership.A leader makes intentional moves, while a pawn reacts.Stop confusing desire with direction in relationships.Wanting a queen doesn't mean you're ready for one.When you learn to just be, you'll find out you'll actually become.Ask what kind of man you need to be for the relationship you want.We often react to situations like pawns instead of being intentional.Be proactive in your actions and decisions. Don't just become a king; be a king! Kingdom Lens: Proverbs 16:9--A man's heart deviseth his way, but the Lord directeth his stepsTitlesFrom Pawn to King: Self-Leadership Before RelationshipsSound Bites 00:00 "A leader makes intentional moves." 09:16 "Stop confusing desire with direction." 16:06 "Don't become a king. Be a king." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Real Men, Real Talk 00:20 The Importance of Decision Making 03:10 Leading Yourself Before Leading Others 05:33 Proactive vs Reactive Behavior 08:33 The Movement of Stopping 10:39 Becoming What You Ask For 12:50 Intentionality in Relationships 15:27 Conclusion and Call to Action Resources & Links⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kingdom Connections⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter (X)⁠⁠TikTok