Stuck in Survival Mode? How to Make Your Body Feel Safe Again

Stuck in survival mode? Your body has to feel safe first. Spiritual director Jada Dobesh shares why, and a 30 second reset you can do anywhere. Jada Dobesh is a certified spiritual director and the owner of Selah Space, a holistic wellness cooperative for women in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. Host Melissa Goodwin asks what a spiritual healer actually does, why so many high functioning women live in survival mode, and how somatic healing helps the body come back online. In this episode What a spiritual director does, and how it differs from therapy Why Jada says the root is a lack of safety in the body Why stress management is not enough, and what stress elimination means Where unfelt emotions tend to show up: neck, shoulders, belly Why so many women are afraid to let their emotions out What fragmentation feels like when you only feel your chest How her Reiki sessions work, with touch or without How she answers Christians who ask if Reiki fits their faith What The Body Keeps the Score gets right, and where she goes further Freeze and fawn: the stress responses women fall into most Why repair matters more than perfect parenting The 30 second hug that helps reset your nervous system Why emotions are tourists, not residents Chapters 0:00 Your body is not supposed to hurt every day 0:39 Welcome to Dialed In Health 1:22 Meet Jada Dobesh of Selah Space 1:55 What is a spiritual healer? 2:58 What happens in a spiritual direction session 4:06 Parts work: how old is the version of you in charge? 4:30 Reiki and Brainspotting, explained 4:56 How she became a spiritual director 6:40 Why she added Reiki 7:39 The Catholic roots of spiritual direction 8:10 Companionship, not teacher and student 8:55 The daughter wound and your relationship with God 9:53 Why she works with women 10:54 Carrying the weight of the world 12:01 You are not supposed to have headaches every day 12:52 The root: no safety in the body 13:42 Stress management vs stress elimination 14:02 Being held and witnessed in your pain 15:20 Opening Selah Space in 2020 16:57 The belief that it has to be your fault 18:31 The client who had no neck 19:36 Where unfelt emotions show up in the body 20:47 Why women are afraid to let emotions out 22:11 That energy has to go somewhere 22:46 Fragmentation: when your body goes quiet 23:54 How Reiki helps women reconnect 24:46 Melissa's first Reiki session 25:11 Touch, oxytocin and relaxation 26:26 Types of Reiki, including Holy Fire Reiki 26:58 How to choose a spiritual director or Reiki practitioner 28:33 Is Reiki Christian? How she answers 30:48 The Body Keeps the Score: what it gets right 31:42 The goal is to become unbothered 32:52 The little girl in charge of your nervous system 34:22 Flipping your lid 34:46 Freeze and fawn, explained 35:51 Fight turned inward 36:22 Parenting: repair over perfection 38:34 A Gen X mom asks about teen mental health 40:18 Grit vs emotional resilience 42:11 Emotions are tourists 43:30 Done with shoulds 43:56 The 30 second hug that resets your nervous system 45:14 The mom sway 45:43 Find connection 45:56 Jada Dobesh Healing, Selah Space and Circles of Care 48:25 How to find Jada 49:07 Thanks for watching About the guest Jada Dobesh, Spiritual Director and Owner, Selah Space. 117 W 39th St, Sioux Falls, SD 57105. selahspacesd.com and jadadobeshhealing.com Listen and watch Watch on YouTube. Full transcript, chapters and FAQ at dialedin.health. Find a vetted provider at the directory. Follow Follow Dialed In Health so you never miss an episode, and please rate and review. It is the biggest thing that helps someone else find this one. Educational and informational only. Not medical advice and not a substitute for evaluation, diagnosis or treatment by a licensed provider. If you are in crisis, call or text 988.