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The Modern Gay Buffet: Chemsex, Orgies, and "Chill"

Foreign Affairs: dating men·Aleksandr and Stephen·8 June 2026·51 min

About this episode

Welcome to the modern gay market, where "looking to chill" rarely means watching Netflix. In this episode of Foreign Affairs we talk about the normalization of group sex, the "buffet mentality" driven by digital FOMO and tackle the deeper question: are extreme hookup trends and chemsex filling an intimacy void, or are we just two grumpy men completely out of touch with the new norm? Tune in for a hilarious reality check on why a traditional, sober one-on-one date feels like the ultimate rebellion.