The Process of Becoming: Do You Ever Actually Arrive?

Identity, marriage, fatherhood, and aging parents — why no one everarrives at a finished version of themselves.There's no version of you that you finally arrive at. No house, no job,no ring, no title that lets you stop. Brett, Marland, and Cody run theidea of becoming through the whole ecosystem — self, husband, father,son, professional, friend — and ask what happens to the men who decidethey're done growing.CHAPTERS0:00 Intro & World Cup Follow-Up4:00 The Odyssey: Becoming Someone New to Get Home6:45 The Question: Can You Ever Actually Arrive?9:20 The Car in the Driveway: What Defines You18:50 Damaged Goods, or Damaged but Still Good?24:45 Becoming as a Self31:45 Becoming as a Husband37:00 Becoming as a Father40:50 Becoming as a Son52:20 Becoming as a Professional57:10 Becoming as a Friend1:02:15 Monuments, Decades, and Forgiving Yourself1:09:10 TakeawaysMarland backs into his wife's brand-new car and figures out somethingabout identity in the process. Brett's mom texts him out of nowhere:"Why aren't we better friends?" Marland's father is 88, newly diagnosed,and content to go — and Marland works in the industry running the trialsthat might have bought him time.We ain't here for the postures or the masks we wear. Fathers, partners,friends — learning how to be.New episodes at goodmentrying.com. Follow @goodmentrying.