How Do You Break the Patterns You Inherited From Your Parents? ~ with Guest author Katya Suvarova (Ep 203)

In this episode of Wisdom of the Body, Heather Grzych talks with author Katya Suvarova about how family, culture, childhood, and the circumstances we grow up in can shape the people we become. Drawing from Katya's memoir Ungrateful Immigrant Daughter, they explore what happens when childhood adaptations become adult identities, how inherited family patterns can continue long after the conditions that created them have changed, and what it means to understand your family without simply repeating its patterns. Heather brings in an Ayurvedic perspective on the relationship between a person and the conditions they live in, and the question of whether we can deliberately create new patterns through different practices and circumstances. This conversation explores what we inherit, what we adapt to, what we choose to keep, and what it takes to decide which parts of your family story belong in your future. Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:07 How early survival adaptations become personality 01:14 Who is Katya Suvorova and what her memoir is about 02:46 Learning she was undocumented 06:52 Coping patterns that followed into adulthood 10:33 Did writing the memoir change her relationship to trauma? 12:48 Grounding herself after the book 19:45 Discovering her mother's hidden past 27:16 What produces trauma and identity confusion 30:23 Did publishing the book bring freedom? 35:49 How secrecy and trauma affected her body 40:12 What she still keeps private about her mother 46:19 What remains unsaid, and what comes next 50:12 Outro Heather Grzych, ADLC is an author, healthcare strategist, and host of the Wisdom of the Body podcast, a top 2.5% global podcast. A former president of the National Ayurvedic Medical Association, healthcare executive, and clinician who has guided women through high-stakes fertility decisions, Heather has spent her career helping people navigate uncertainty where health, strategy, and human behavior intersect. She is the author of The Ayurvedic Guide to Fertility, which has sold thousands of copies worldwide, and has been featured in Sports Illustrated, Yoga Journal, and the Sunday Independent. www.heathergrzych.com Katya Suvarova is the author of Ungrateful Immigrant Daughter. Raised as an undocumented Russian immigrant in Texas, Katya is now a US citizen writing from abroad. She says her work is powered by strong coffee courtesy of her husband's amateur barista phase, a cat so unruly she once earned a spot on the no-fly list, and a three-legged dog who moves through the world like she has five legs and no regrets. Ungrateful Immigrant Daughter is her debut memoir. https://katyasuvorova.com