EP 209: Why You Become Who You Practice Being

Send us Fan MailWhat if becoming more fully yourself has less to do with looking inward forever, and more to do with what you choose to give your attention, and energy to next?In this episode, in my discussion with Craig Harper and Tiffanee Cook we explore the relationship between self-regulation, agency, identity, meaning, and generosity. We look at the difference between an internal and external locus of control, the stories we tell ourselves that can intensify our suffering, and why painful experiences often reveal what we value most.We also examine a frustrating truth: knowing better and doing better are not the same thing. Real change happens when insight becomes behavior. You begin to become the person you want to be by practicing the things that person would actually do, often through changes so small they seem almost insignificant at first.Because once the door is open even slightly, it becomes much easier to push it wider.Ultimately, this conversation moves beyond self-improvement and toward something larger: the meaning and power that can emerge when your story stops being entirely about you and begins to include what you can contribute to other people.Perhaps originality is not simply about becoming different.Perhaps it is about becoming more deliberately yourself, and then using that self both intentionally as well as generously.Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com