Why You Can't Always Control Your Emotions—and How to Change That

What if being emotionally overwhelmed isn't a character flaw—and learning to regulate yourself isn't about becoming someone who never gets upset? What if self-regulation is simply learning how to find your footing again when life knocks you off balance? That's what makes self-regulation so important for our relationships and our own well-being. It is the internal ability to notice and manage our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, but more importantly, it reminds us that we have choices even when it feels like we don't.