Ep. 54 Why You Can’t Stay Calm When Your PDA or Autistic Child Is Hitting You (Part 1)

You’ve been told to “just stay calm” while your child rages, hits, or destroys things — and then quietly beaten yourself up when you couldn’t. Here’s the truth: you are not supposed to feel calm in those moments. It isn’t possible — and chasing calm might actually be making them harder.In Part 1 of this two-part series on aggression, parenting coach Afshan (mom to a once-five-hours-a-day melting-down kid) walks you through what’s really happening inside YOU first: the survival patterns we fall into without realizing, the nervous-system science that finally takes the shame off, and the shift that changes everything — from “what do I do?” to “how do I be?” Because your own regulated-enough nervous system is the real intervention.This is the foundation. Part 2 gets into what to actually do when the aggression is aimed right at you — including the hitting.→ Read the blog version: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/why-you-can-t-stay-calm-when-your-pda-or-autistic-child-is-hitting-you-part-1→ Free guide — The 3 Shifts To Make During Your Child’s Meltdowns: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide → Join the priority list for The Regulation Rebuild course: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulation-rebuild-course-priority