How to Rebuild Self-Trust After Years of Breaking Promises with Ezra Vancil

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when you’ve broken so many promises to yourself that you stop believing you can change?In this episode, I sit down with singer-songwriter, author, entrepreneur and recovery advocate Ezra Vancil to talk about addiction, identity, self-trust, relationships, and what it actually takes to rebuild your life.Ezra experienced success in music at a very young age, but after that version of his life fell apart, he spent years trying to get back to who he thought he was supposed to be. Alcohol gradually became his way of managing emotions, disappointment and pain, until drinking took over his life. At 40, after years of addiction and consequences, Ezra reached a point where he knew he could no longer continue living the same way. Recovery didn’t instantly make life easier. Instead, it forced him to face himself, accept where he was, ask for help, and begin rebuilding through small actions. We talk about why acceptance isn’t the same as giving up, how self-talk can either keep you stuck or help you move forward, and why rebuilding self-trust happens through what you actually do—not what you promise yourself you’re going to do.We also explore why trying to change everything at once often backfires, how identity shapes behavior, the power of routines and environment, and why showing people you’ve changed matters far more than telling them you will.  In this episode, we talk about:Ezra’s early success in music and losing the identity he had built around itwhen alcohol went from a coping tool to controlling his lifethe moment he decided he could no longer live that waywhy sobriety didn’t immediately make everything feel betteracceptance as a form of strengthlearning to stop fighting yourselfhow to rebuild self-trust after repeatedly breaking promiseswhy tiny actions can create bigger changesthe difference between “trying to change” and changing your identityroutines that help prevent falling back into old patternswhy recovery is not about avoiding strugglerebuilding trust with family after words are no longer enoughshowing change instead of promising changewhy your environment matters more than relying on willpowerwhen productivity and achievement become another form of escapehow Ezra’s relationship with creativity changed after sobrietyasking the right people for helpwhy you may need to focus on one problem instead of trying to fix everythingwhat a good life means to Ezra todayLearn more about Ezra, his music and his work:https://ezravancil.com/Try The Consistency ResetMy new personalized coaching app for women 35–55 who are tired of starting over with diets, workouts, and healthy habits.Get simple daily actions, realistic workouts, practical nutrition habits, and Reset Mode to help you keep going when life gets busy.Take the quiz and build your personalized plan here: studio.com/turo/consistency-reset