257. why you can be loved and still feel unlovable (feat. dr. marisa franco)

why do some people struggle to accept love?? today’s guest is dr. marisa g. franco— a psychologist, author, professor, and friendship expert. she writes about how to build relationships with yourself and others for psychology today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like the new york times, the telegraph, and vice.in this episode, we talk about how our self-worth impacts our ability to love ourselves– and receive love from others. we talk about:01:38 how self-worth and relationships are tied together05:16 how you can be loved but not feel loved06:16 how memories become the database of your self-worth08:50 external vs. internal validation10:10 how to rewrite the memories that shaped you14:20 supporting someone who can't accept your love15:38 low self-worth and feeling misunderstood18:46 how i found 1% of hope in recovery20:50 what we get wrong about attachment styles26:02 the one thing to take away from this episodementioned:• dr. franco’s previous episode• dr. franco’s instagram• dr. franco’s website• pre-order worth☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:1. leave a review on apple or spotify2. dm me a screenshot on instagram📲 bonus entries for story or tiktok tags!@shepersistedpodcastshepersistedpodcast.comhello@shepersistedpodcast.com © 2026 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.